Although we want to become better and we know exactly what to do to achieve it, we stand still. Why? I read somewhere that it is because we don’t let our mind dream big. We have set low standards and it doesn’t have a motive.
Now imagine if your mind works like that on its own, what happens when your environment or even worse, your relationship intensifies it. We must never forget that the other person is our mirror and reflects every thought that we have about ourselves.
I’ll try to be more specific.
Some people believe that relationships are a game of power; however, I have a different opinion. I’m not sure that relationships are of total equality, but in the end I don’t think that really matters, as long as the couple follows the same path. Necessary elements are respect and value of one’s dreams and wishes. When these don’t exist, then we are talking about a toxic relationship. Some find the courage to leave, others, those we mentioned above, with the low standards and small things, stay.
From those leaving, we have two categories of people. One category is when they feel that they finally got free and that gives them power to move on, whereas the other category is when they feel that they finally got free and that scares them. I belong in the second category. The catch is that this kind of fear is not apparent. For example, when you are afraid of heights you are feeling dizzy. This one is subtle and becomes apparent even after a long time while you are thinking that you are fine.
If we observe our self though, we can see its symptoms. We are no longer social and here goes flirting. In matter of fact, when we pressure our self to flirt, it sounds like an interrogation. We avoid relationships, having as an excuse that we are done with that sport. If we dare to have one, it will be superficial. Now, when sexual desires kick in, most likely we will prefer something without attachments.
What are we going to do? This is how our life will be from now on? What should we do?
We know pretty well. We must set high standards. We must aim high. We must dream big. Even if we fail, worst case scenario we will have achieved something great. In theory everything is good but what in action? We permit our self to dream. No matter who destroyed our dreams or made us believe that we are not worthy, we should let him in the past where he belongs.
We start with big goals, different for each person, but I will mention a few. One might be a job that satisfies us both psychologically and financially, a companionship, travelling.
Then, we set the smaller, everyday ones that we can easily achieve. Those goals that can take us to something bigger.
The self confidence that we will feel every time we accomplish one will be sufficient to make us radiate on a higher level.
We deserve the best; all we have to do is to use our most powerful weapon, our mind.
