New parents, independent kids

When a five year old boy says to his mom: “no one is your prince”, then we can say that there is still hope and it will come from future generations, from young parents.

Parents, who are around their middle thirties to middle forties, are people that are on the verge.
They carry their own guilt and remorse from previous generations. After all that’s how they have grown up, while in the meantime they are actively participating to the now that shows them the way towards the truth and liberation. There are no longer any stereotypes, like: “you are my king”. They are bringing up independent children that take up their responsibilities but they are also aware of the fact that they are carrying someone else’s burden or insecurities.

More young parents are trying to raise children with compassion. They are very careful as to the way they are addressing them and to the words that they are using. Words are powerful and can shape character even from mother’s womb. Parents become an example of people that include everyone and put no one on the side. No one is superior to the other.

What is most important is that they consider them as special human beings. Clearly there is still “mother owl”, but at least now she recognizes the fact that this little creature has his own character that needs to develop and his own feelings that needs to be expressed.

It is really optimistic seeing parents to fight with their own outdated conceptions. Those that have been ingrained in them, like being written on their DNA. Moreover, they have the clarity and the patience to get rid of all those things that don’t function anymore and highlight things that make a child independent but still one with the group.

Surely, there will be times that words and actions will take us years back, like: “We did so great in that test.” It is the use of this plural that gives no value to the child, as if he didn’t manage anything on his own. Gradually though it fades away from a parent’s vocabulary. Still, they have to practice, after so many years of listening to it from when they were also kids.

What is most important is to raise kids that have knowledge of their abilities and their potentials. Children with free will, dreams, desires and ideals, that they are the princes and princesses of themselves. Support and trust can do wonders.

Firstly, we should trust our own self that we will become or that we already are good parents. We should trust that there is no right or wrong, as long as we rely on love and on the need to raise a kid who will bring change.

We owe to ourselves and to future generations to fight our insecurities and our taboos and be next to our children.
To talk to them as if they are equal personalities and not as kids that they don’t understand nor like kings that they won’t fight and they won’t claim anything.