Teddy bears, red balloons, flowers and love cards everywhere, Valentine’s Day is here again. Reservations for candlelight dinners, give away nights and presents.
However -as I read somewhere, love is not about romantic gestures, it is to be less frightened. It is to heal old wounds and see life differently.
It is not unconditional love, but love with personal limits. We can give ourselves wholeheartedly to the other person, but first we should give to ourselves.
We should give presents firstly to us, hug us first. We should take care of our Soul.
If we don’t say I love you to the person in the mirror, then how can we say it to our soul mate? How are we supposed to know that is our soul mate?
We were taught to entrust our insecurities and concerns to the other person and then if our relationship will stop working, we are wondering.
We buy last minute chocolate and we hope for expiration. A relationship though needs effort and deep understanding, with the condition that we have understood ourselves first.
“Which self I’m bringing in this relationship? Which are my thoughts, desires, and concerns?”
Since we accept and love ourselves as the way they are, since we admit the fact that we are in progress and that every day is a lesson for us, then we can show all our aspects without fear and only then our companion can accept us. It is when we will be next to the person who loves us genuinely.
It won’t be necessary to have a Valentine’s day to remind us what love is.
Love is to be present every day. Love is to show up not only when it is necessary. Listen to the other person without filters and old beliefs. Now, if in the meantime we want to offer a rose, both will know that this happens out of love, not because a society forces us to.
A day like this, we may be inundated with hearts. If we want to offer one, it is not a crime, as long as we know the reason.
Is it because we really want to do it or because everyone else does it? Besides, Valentine’s Day gives us a great reason for gestures like that, but just that, a reason. The purpose of a relationship is not to find reasons in order to be with someone, but rather causes.
Let’s not listen to the sirens. In a relationship or not, let’s listen to our true needs. There is no right or wrong, it is only what suits us and what does not. If we want a living room full of balloons, let’s do it. If we feel that is a social pressure and a part of consumerism, then it’s ok to believe that, none of this really matters.
It might sound a cliché especially on a day like Valentine’s, but what really matters is love and acceptance. Love and accept ourselves and then our companion.
We must fill our Soul with energy and light and then everything will be ok.
Either we are in a relationship or not, a healthy one is on its way.
